Say Goodbye to What's Holding You Back

You were ambitious, you had a goal. But negative comments and a bumpy road provoked you to give it all up. You’ve accepted the fact that your dreams aren’t worth exploring because nothing good will ever come from them…

My dream was and still is all about the wonder of putting words down on paper even if, as a job, it has been a rollercoaster ride. When I was just starting out as a writer, finding a position in this field was pure torture, to say the least. And, trying to get my first novel published was even worse. The process of finding an agent to promote your work isn’t quick or easy and often comes to a disappointing end. You begin to feel like a fool for putting your heart and soul out there, while wasting days, even years of your life. This sounds awful, I know, but this is how the story goes for most artists…

One day, a long time ago, I received a call from the editor of our local newspaper. She was offering me a positon to cover stories about our community. I immediately accepted of course! At the time, we were living in a very small town and anything noteworthy was hard to come by. It was a real challenge to write a sensational story, but it didn’t matter because I was ecstatic to have published words that people would actually read. I was proud; it felt like the world was finally opening up to me.

A few months into the job, I came across a person whom I know very well. We talked about my new endeavor and she asked if it paid well. I was dumbfounded by the question and didn’t know how to respond. Being young and perhaps a little naive, I gave it to her exactly as it was. “Well, it doesn’t really pay…” I began. “Oh, okay…” She replied. Right away, her disparaging tone made me feel extremely diminished, as though I had no worth. Up until then, I’d never given much thought to the fact that some people believe that self-worth is measured by the money we make. And I surely wasn’t rich, so… well, that said a lot about me. That was such a dreadful moment in my life because it kept me away from my dreams for years afterwards, when I decided to give it all up.

The reality as an artist is often as follows: you’ll need a second job, if you wish to put food on the table and continue to pay your bills (which I think is always a good idea!). However, there is one thing you should never do under any circumstance: let someone reduce you for doing what you love. You must keep your desires alive, because amazing things will come from your efforts. It took me many years to understand that true success and a profound sense of fulfillment is rarely attached to the numbers in your bank account. The satisfaction most of us seek is easily accessible but often overlooked. It comes from the pleasure you put into what you create. If you’re like me, the simple act of writing is already enough. When I sit down with a steaming mug of coffee and my computer or a notebook and pen… pure bliss ensues. I’ve realized that making time to lose myself in what brings me joy has also attracted an abundance of wonderful things in my life.

On those days when self-doubt or doubt is inflicted upon you, simply bulldoze it flat, trample it down, chew it up and spit it out. Say goodbye to anything holding you back because your passion is your purpose; it’s what keeps you alive and thriving, and makes for a meaningful existence.